If you have a Performing Disposition and an Allowing parenting style you are apt to significantly increase understanding, closeness, cooperation, and respect between you and your kids by learning to recognize your parenting habits, considering the effects these habits might be having on your children, and finding ways to modify some things that don’t seem to be working.
Possible modifications to consider are to:
• find out where your children are when they are away from home, who they are with, and what they are doing.
• talk with your kids to determine clear, consistent, mutually agreed upon expectations for their behavior.
• talk with your kids to determine consistent, mutually agreed upon times and expectations for chores, meals, going to bed, getting up in the morning, and doing homework.